Heteronormativity is everywhere – even when we least expect it

It may not seem like a big deal to most people when they see signs like the ones above – I mean isn’t it nice they even have family restroom lounges available in malls and airports now a days so that parents and children have the space to take care of their needs together in relative privacy? But when you …

Lesbian clients face multiple challenges

On behalf of Dr. Costine, we are pleased to announce that her article is now live on Addiction Professional’s website! In her article, you can find information about the various challenges that are met by Lesbian clients, including heterosexim, heteronormativity, lesbianphobia, sexism, and much more. Lesbians in this world are at a clear disadvantage, and exactly why and how this …

“Urge To Merge” – Book Announcement!

I’m sharing some exciting news! A print version of my book Urge to Merge will be available next year! More information about my book will be released soon in upcoming segments. Be sure to stay tuned and follow up if you’d like to find out more about topics such as lesbian love addiction. Thank you!  

Toxic Shame

The concept of toxic shame was created by an addiction specialist by the name of John Bradshaw, who is now lauded as a senior fellow at The Meadows in Arizona, where inpatients can receive treatment for various disorders, behaviors, and addictions.  Toxic shame is an incredibly helpful concept that helps individuals heal from it once they understand that it is …

Useful Tools for Dealing with The Inner Critic

Dealing with our inner critic can help us feel much better about ourselves and finally rid our minds of the negative messages our inner critic tells us. In order to deal with our inner critic we must first notice and recognize that we probably have one. Many of us do have an inner critic but have never realized its presence …

Conquering Our Inner Critic

Many of us have to deal with having an inner critic – a voice inside our heads that tells us negative, hurtful messages and is incredibly cruel. This inner critic can have a strong, apparent presence, speaking to us loudly and telling us that we’re not good enough. The voice that we hear from our inner critic includes negative messages …

The Shadow

Carl Jung formulated the concept of “the shadow,” which is a place where individuals store feelings about themselves that they don’t like and would rather not deal with.  These feelings can include hatred, sadness, anger, envy, jealousy, and internalized messages and phobias that come from others. These messages that we receive from the outside world tell us that we’re not …

Internalized Phobia

As members of the LGBT community deal with the effects of homophobia, lesbian phobia, biphobia, and transphobia, these concepts continue to be internalized into the psyche and stir up problems with self-perception, self esteem, and self love. When individuals internalize negative beliefs and stereotypes, they end up assimilating negative views about themselves into their psyche, including their mentality and their …

Lesbian Phobia

Lesbian phobia, coined by Dr. Lauren Costine, is a relatively new idea and not commonly used. However, it could not be more relevant to our society; simply acknowledging homophobia does not encompass everything that lesbians have to deal with, both externally and internally. Referring to society as homophobic implies that there is a fear or hatred of LGBT individuals or …

Phobias

As members of the LGBT community, gay, lesbian, transgender, and bisexual individuals deal with many societal issues on a daily basis. A large part of their lives includes learning to handle phobia and disapproval from internal sources such as friends, family, and peers, and even from external sources such as the government and media. Phobia, which is defined in the …