April, 25, 2018
One of the biggest women’s movements in history underway. It’s exciting. We are making Herstory. The Women’s Marches of 2017 and 2018 and the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements have exploded worldwide and opened everyone’s eyes to the pervasive problems faced by women (and others sharing intersecting group identities), who are being marginalized, oppressed, and abused. This time period will be talked about for hundreds of years. It will be taught. The culture is awakening at a breathtaking speed to how its endemic social constructs have caused great harm to our people. Women from every race, immigration status, sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression are coming together to say, “There’s a problem and we demand solutions.” There is just one thing missing and it’s not being talked about globally – yet. That missing piece is the healing of the trauma from the inside out.
Believe it or not facing our wounds can seem more daunting than marching, voting, and demanding systemic change. It is not. But your psyche will tell you it is for two simple reasons – fear and resistance. Our defense mechanisms are there to protect us from trauma but there comes a time when we have to face the wounds so we can move through them. We need to be mentally healthy more than we need to continue to protect ourselves.
The time is now to help women heal psychologically from the damage of anti-female beliefs and expectations. Society and western culture have encouraged women to ignore the fact that they are ashamed of themselves. This shame is handed down through thousands of years of stories, which implies that women are inferior, not to be trusted, and tainted with evil. We must heal our internal wounds to develop a lasting relationship with our authentic selves. By shedding light on what we have had to repress and ignore, we can initiate transformation and build a powerful, unstoppable sense of self.
The time to do this is now. A tool to leave you with today – the first step is becoming aware of the fact that there is a problem. Think deeply about the messages you received as a young girl about being female, a woman, sex, gender expression, your relationship to men and women, your body, your looks, your intelligence, your essence and so on. Write it down – get some clarity. It is not about being a victim but realizing you have been victimized and you deserve to heal. With clarity you can start the process of stopping the internal messages. You can start managing them instead of the other way around. So write them down and then look for how you talk to yourself. Do you notice any similarities? You are not alone! Our inner critic is deeply connected to growing up female in a misogynistic world. When you realize your inner critic is talking to misonystically you are one step closer to shutting down its power. Let the awareness begin.