Lilith of Mesopotamian Mythology (part 1)

This video is an introduction to LGBT historical and mythic characters, Lilith being one of them. Lilith, a Mesopotamian goddess, was around at about the time of 2000-1600 B.C.; she was present in the Old Testament and preceded Eve. Her relevance for the LGBT culture arises from the fact that she was around when the patriarchal culture of Indo-Europe was …

Interview with JD Fuller: Multiculturalism and LGBT

Here is my latest video – an interview with my colleague JD Fuller regarding the LGBT community and its many facets such as heteronormativity and multiculturalism. We got a chance to discuss sexual identity and how it’s tied to racism and a patriarchal society. In the video we also talk about individuation and the difficulty that accompanies coming out. If …

A Modern Day Boston Marriage Goes Legal

For centuries, women have been living together in romantic relationships that they have kept hidden, finding it safer to keep it amongst themselves than deal with the ratifications of coming out in a lesbianphobic society. In the 18th Century there were a group of upper middle class women who lived together as couples. Their financial security allowed them to be …

Heteronormativity at its Finest!

I have a friend – a lesbian – who is divorced and has 2 children. Whenever we hang out or whenever she tells people, LGBT or straight, that she is divorced they almost invariably ask her where her ex-husband is. Since she has been out of almost 20 years – every time it happens or I hear about it — …

Heteronormativity is everywhere – even when we least expect it

It may not seem like a big deal to most people when they see signs like the ones above – I mean isn’t it nice they even have family restroom lounges available in malls and airports now a days so that parents and children have the space to take care of their needs together in relative privacy? But when you …

Lesbian clients face multiple challenges

On behalf of Dr. Costine, we are pleased to announce that her article is now live on Addiction Professional’s website! In her article, you can find information about the various challenges that are met by Lesbian clients, including heterosexim, heteronormativity, lesbianphobia, sexism, and much more. Lesbians in this world are at a clear disadvantage, and exactly why and how this …

“Urge To Merge” – Book Announcement!

I’m sharing some exciting news! A print version of my book Urge to Merge will be available next year! More information about my book will be released soon in upcoming segments. Be sure to stay tuned and follow up if you’d like to find out more about topics such as lesbian love addiction. Thank you!  

Toxic Shame

The concept of toxic shame was created by an addiction specialist by the name of John Bradshaw, who is now lauded as a senior fellow at The Meadows in Arizona, where inpatients can receive treatment for various disorders, behaviors, and addictions.  Toxic shame is an incredibly helpful concept that helps individuals heal from it once they understand that it is …

Useful Tools for Dealing with The Inner Critic

Dealing with our inner critic can help us feel much better about ourselves and finally rid our minds of the negative messages our inner critic tells us. In order to deal with our inner critic we must first notice and recognize that we probably have one. Many of us do have an inner critic but have never realized its presence …

Conquering Our Inner Critic

Many of us have to deal with having an inner critic – a voice inside our heads that tells us negative, hurtful messages and is incredibly cruel. This inner critic can have a strong, apparent presence, speaking to us loudly and telling us that we’re not good enough. The voice that we hear from our inner critic includes negative messages …